Part of me wants to say, "well, that is your choice, I have mine" sorta thing, or something along rH's line of "deciding on her timeline" to her H, or nothing except "thank you for your honesty, I appreciate it"...
^^^ The first is too cold, the last too unhelpful. She's reaching out to you for help/advice. You have to do better than that.
Originally Posted By: snodderly
Your wife is thinking out loud. She still has a lot insecurities about the way she looks and her life as it is right now. I would respond with something like this: "W, I read your email and I want to thank you for sharing your feelings with me this morning. I do understand some of what you are feeling right now about the boys and the house being empty. Would you like to sit down this evening and discuss what you are feeling with me?" Put the ball back into her court and see if she will respond back to you w/a yes.
Your wife is reaching out a bit w/these snippets.
^^^ This is how to respond. But I would step up the "would you like to" to a more assertive "Let's get together tonight so we can properly discuss this."
She's reaching out to you for guidance and support, seize the opportunity! She NEEDS you right now.
I look forward to hearing how things go.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
