You know the theory of sex rank? I know it doesn't really fit with DBing but it is interesting. The author on the website "married mans sex life" makes an interesting anology on the importance of success for a woman. He makes the analogy with a football team.
He says We all cheer our team even through a losing season. In the off season though, we want to see changes being made so that next season is better. After too many losing seasons in a row, we don't support our team anymore.
Do you know what we in Tampa Bay Bucaneers land call these sorts of fans?
Fair weathered.
I love my team. I love my team whether they win or lose. I actually became a fan when they were the losingest team in history. Wearing Creamsicle uniforms. Sure the Superbowl win was wonderful and I pray that someday they will have another, but I am still a fan and will be until the day that I die.
This may simply be my thinking as a woman, but honestly, I think the idea of sex rank, is bunk.
What do I want from a man, what keeps him attractive to me?
Someone I can respect, who respects himself.
Someone with confidence in himself.
Someone who makes an effort in life. Someone who knows that eventually things will get better as long as they don't quit.
The list is much longer but I don't want to say anything that will set you onto a different tangent.
I also know that those things ebb and flow with time and circumstance but I am aware that they don't have to completly go away.
The OM may not be much as far as a provider and what not, but it sounds like he does have the belief in himself that he can be something great.
And that is a quality that many of the male vets around here have found within themselves. Many of them are posting to you. And they realize it is how they feel about themselves that has created that attractivness that draws women toward them.
So, your GAL activities? Things that will improve your self esteem? Things that will make you more attractive?
What are those things?
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
