Originally Posted By: cat04


I would like you to think about something...

I looked up the definition of the word convince...

synonyms included persuade, cajole, talk into...

It is something that a salesperson does...

It is a word that makes me uncomfortable and possibly other posters as well.

You didn't convince your W to fall in love with you all those years ago.

She saw something in you that she liked.




Correct. There was (among other things) . . . ATTRACTION. And nothing KILLS attraction more than moving over into "gay boyfriend" status with her.

I would urge you to consider something, SM, and that is this: what makes you think your wife will feel safe in the future relationship with you, if you pursue her and supplicate to her when she's with OM? She may LIKE the attention, and maybe even be more "friendly" toward you in the SHORT term . . . but make no mistake, it will:

a. KILL attraction, and

b. NOT make her feel safe to be with someone that would allow such a thing.

And this doesn't even take into consideration what this will do to your OWN self-esteem.


Starsky


M57 W 57; D30 D28 S24 S20 GD7 GD2 GD1 GD5m GD1m
BD 5/07; W's affair 5/07-8/07

At the end of every hard-earned day, people gotta find some reason to believe. (Bruce Springsteen)