Yes I do believe my W is fence sitting. I think she pretends she is completely done, but if she was I think she would be taking steps towards that.
She is a strong willed person and when she has her mind set on something she gets it done. I don't see her "getting things done".
As far as her talking to me about the A and OM, no absolutely not! If she even mentions him I remind her that I do not want to hear about it.
When I said I was going to ask Laurie, I meant I was going to ask Laurie why she is having me engage W when she is with OM. I should have started a new paragraph before adding that statement because now it looks like I am asking laurie about what to do if W talks to me about R with OM. I already know what I would do! I would tell her NOT to talk to me about it!
Although Laurie already told me the answer to why I should engage her, there has been significant surprise on the board and so I just want to re hear it from Laurie.
Me, H-34 now 38 W-32 now 35 T-13 now 18 years M-6 now 9 Daughter 3 years now 7 Bomb 11/27/12 - OM 1 year in house separation Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017
