I need help on that. I asked him to decrease spending. Want him to come home earlier. He agreed to come home by 7 ,3 nites a week when he is not working but I am going to ask him to leave a half hour earlier in am. He has to work 9 hours a day and drives about 45 min to work. I want manners like please , thank you, excuse me. Which he balked at in the past but agrees to now. He ageed that I will do bills because I'm on time. I told him no contact whatsoever with ow. But I said that before. Want him to help around house more. Spend Sundays together as a family or just us. He wants to go out to dinner every weekend I said fine but not always expensive restaurants. Take out is good too. I want more affection as well. Got any advice? He tends to balk if he thinks he's being bossed.