Compliments & Passive Aggressiveness..Work to do!

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I realize that you want to explain everything to everyone, and that seems to just be your nature...

Truth is, me, Starsky, Gabbysmom, we don't really have to understand why Laurie has you doing anything...as long as you are comfortable with it...

I would like you to think about something...

I looked up the definition of the word convince...

synonyms included persuade, cajole, talk into...

It is something that a salesperson does...

It is a word that makes me uncomfortable and possibly other posters as well.

You didn't convince your W to fall in love with you all those years ago.

She saw something in you that she liked.

Instead of trying to "convince" her of something, like all of the compliments that you referenced that didn't seem to work because you were trying to get her to believe what you did, just SHOW her.

By being a good father. By being a good man. By not having an agenda.

"Noting" changes and mindreading, speculating, and analzying are very different.

You did A, B happened. That is a note.

You did A, and B happened and C might be happening, possibly because of XYZ or A, is analyzing.

Read the 5 LL. Take the test in the back. Don't simply assume because you read something and it jived with something you heard that that is the answer. I was honestly very surprised when my results came out differently from what I expected them to be...Again...emotion versus data...