Now he is living at his childhood home with a brother ALSO going through a mid-life crisis.
I'm curious how you determined that he's MLC and not WAH?
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* he is running, running, running.
Do you mean from the family or literally working out/ running?
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How do I interact with STBX in a healthy way so he will continue to be involved with his girls? We get into an argument and it just goes down the toilet.
OK, well you said you're doing 180's but then you mention the arguments are continuing unabated. When doing 180's it's important to do them on ALL of your destructive behavior. You mention your H is "conflict-avoidant", so I would assume he hates fighting with you, so you're driving him away in these fights. It's "more of the same" behavior. There are methods for resolving issues without it escalating into a fight. DR goes into this. Have you read it?
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It hasn't changed in the last 23 years. How do I get out of this vicious cycle?
By learning new techniques and implementing them! By understanding that YOU can change the pattern, YOU have the power to stop the cycle!
