Seriously? You Don't Know His Name?

[VeryGrateful]

If she wants to go to MC and you feel it's helping, then by all means do it. But maybe she's trying too hard to find those loving feelings also. This could end up being frustrating for her when it doesn't work.

I hadn't thought about it that way. That we are both trying too hard. Most of the time I think she is not trying but perhaps she is. I can't read her mind so don't know.

Neither of you can rush it.

You are right, it is a marathon.

When she draws closer, engage with her. If she pulls back, give her space. Love her from afar, and tell yourself that it is best for the long term success of the marriage.

Thanks for these reminders. It is a dance. Your support helps a lot.