Is it bad that you're here sharing feelings, venting, and figuring things out instead of only talking to her?

Telling her that's hurtful, seems like you're trying to control how she seeks help or who she talks to, and it's not really inappropriate. She needs people to lean on just like you do.

Try to give her more space, ok?

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.