Sexless marriage. H Left. Now retrouvaille in 3wks

[AM2012]

Lately things have been very difficult at home. My H has been saying he wants things to work, but he actions are not showing it at all. He has become more distant than before. I feel like I am starting to go crazy. I have been trying for months to make this work and its only 1- sided. I can't continue like this bi have told him what I need over and over and all he says to me is "well this is how I have felt for years". I know I have made mistakes and have apologized over and over again but he's not ready to accept it.

I know many people are not going to agree with me on what happened tonight, but I felt I have no other option. For the last few weeks I have been thinking that its probably not best for my h to move into the house with me because things are only getting worse in my eyes not better. Well this has been an awful weekend filled with hurt And today on our way to retro I told him how I was feeling and that unless he starts making an effort in this relationship he can't move in. At first he was angry and then agreed that he really does need to be alone and clear his head. He told me that he is feeling very depressed. He told me that he was only here for the kids anyways. This makes sense to me because he actions never matched his words.

Lately I have been asking h to show me love in the way I need love, when he told me that he wanted the m to workout, however he feels my way is ridiculous. For those of you who read the book - 5 love languages - my primary love is gift giving. I have never received a gift from my h unless I told him to get me one. I have never received flowers or a card from him and this has definitely left me feeling neglected. He doesn't feel that he can show me this kind of love since its not part of him. This made be livid. How could someone who claims they want their m to work not want to show them the love they need because they feel its ridiculous.

The night ended in many tears and him claiming he will look for a place to move out and we will set up a sep agreement.