Gonna be different now, (butterfly in hurricane).

[Big Bruce]

Hello everyone,
Thank you, I recognize that I have received some great posts in here.
I also see that after this court hearing, too much welled up inside and I came on these boards venting, complaining and looking for others to whine with me. Which was wrong, I said things I had no business saying.

Thanks to you all, I have a little more perspective now though. Of course W will have anger, if not more than I, inside her after the court thing. After all, she has to pay her L bill too, and more time with S has been given to me than she wished, so she has this sense of "having lost" the case. I hope she'll get used to the idea though.
As for me, paying is not a "fine", (although it's some sort of fine for failing the marriage), but it's a necessity for W and S. I have to learn to let go of my hard feelings about it, I am not the only H on earth who has to pay after all.

TheUF had a genius moment when he said that the ill behaviour of others didn't justify mine. Instead of a tit for a tat, I have to respond to evil with good.

Yes, a MAN wouldn't mind the in-laws being bitchy at him, or complain about the payments or how life is so unfair to him. I gotta have a little bit more dignity and self-respect here.

I'll look up EE and LifeSpring, although I already booked sessions with the best C (apparently) in town.

One question for those who have more experience : I try to sound relaxed and friendly on my emails to W. Will come across as fake so shortly after court? And because of the court trauma, how long do you think it'll take before W kind of takes it in and start responding normally or nicely again?

Thanks for sharing your experience ot thoughts on a court hearing on spouses, and how to react to and handle it.

Bien cordialement,
B.