Wow! nice to get a flood of encouragement after waiting for this to go through moderation. I have read DR and a lot about relationships in general, since this started. I didn't relize how much I didn't know in this area.

Originally Posted By: Crimson

What were your XW's complaints?


I have had a hard time piecing this together, since she wanted no communication after deciding to leave. The main issue is that she feels she can't trust me to be there for her. She had an injury from a fall awhile ago, and while she recovered I was not supportive. In addition, I've put too much emphasis on my career, and she felt neglected. When I hit a particuarly stressful time, and we started arguing, I lashed out by saying I didn't want to continue working on the relationship. That was the straw that broke the camel's back for her.

H: 38 xW: 38
M: 16 T: 18
S: 9
BD: 2/2012
W moved out 4/2012
D: 11/2012