Portia, I am so sorry that he's not been supportive, but mlcers aren't. They are only into themselves and offer up lip service all of the time. Actions speak louder than words and unfortunately, he's done absolutely nothing to indicate to you that he's there for you. This^^ is true. But you do not NEED to ponder it now...if you are not up for it. We all get that. Not all choices must be made by a certain date.
I know you don't want to end this relationship just yet, but it's very evident that he only contacts you for ego kibbles. This man is very selfish and self-absorbed right now. Yes, he pops in and out of your life to keep you hooked into him and his drama. I'm so sorry but, having read your thread, ^^This is also true... Portia, it's time, to really think about your situation and right now you need to be focusing on your parent and your work. You need to put him aside for a while until things settle down in your life. You can't continue to build him up every time he calls. Lip service isn't support my friend. THIS^^^ is mandatory now. You have a parent to care for and to show up for.
Maybe your XSO will man up & show up, maybe not. Time will reveal that.
LATER ON, when the dust settles, you can bet you'll see some things more clearly...and that clarity will help you assess better.
As much as I talk about & believe in forgiveness being our way out of hell, there are some actions/omissions that are, in the end, not forgivable.
Oh It's not that we hold onto the pain of their abandonment or ugly remarks...no it's not that. It's that we no longer see them in the same way or with the same value, and at some level, we know we never will.
THAT is a good time to move on, without looking back.
But you are not there yet, so get back to that parent who loved you all your life...
Hugs to you and keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
Ditto this ^^^^
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