I know of what you speak, G. I also felt like a fool, but now I'm a fool no longer. Trust is long gone, and I doubt ever to return. I am enlightened to my H's manipulations. I suspect my H is also sleeping with different women, but I never question anymore ... he always lies in a way that he's shocked I would think such a thing. Quite funny.
I'm bound for divorce, and happy for it. I don't know what he thinks, and don't care. I hope things go differently for you. I'm not sure what advice to give you, except continue to be patient, and work on yourself, GAL, hang out with friends, and don't pay any attention to him and his problems. They're kinda not your business anymore (that's what my H told me, even though he would come home on the odd occasion, and act married when convenient for him, but when he's away from home ... that's none of my business). Nothing worse than being cynical about one's much beloved H (or the H you used to have).
Take care.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim