I have no idea from a statistical sense, but I have friends that D'd and then remarried, and I know there are folks here that had that happen too.
If I were in your shoes, I think my mindset would be to live my life to the fullest, address all my own demons, become a man only a fool would leave, and keep the path home open.
Without knowing more of your history and your sitch, it's difficult to give specific advice, but a lot of times people's timelines are just different. You decided you didn't like where your M was, and it was enough for you to want to leave...you've gone thru a process and eventually decided you do want to be with W. She started the process months or even years after you did, so give her some time and space and see where life leads.
