here is copy paste of DBMOD post on my previous thread. The post was on 02/17/13:

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When there is meta discussion, opinions fly as if they really apply to a given persons situation. On the board we always see one side. While the coach is hearing one person, they know how to ask the right questions and their toolbox for providing impetus to and assessment of change is just larger.


We think because we see 'so many stories' and hear folks talk about what works and what doesn't work, a coach's advice, especially as is compared to how we talk about a situation on the board, might seem strange.

At the end of the day, the coaches, as hard as it might be forums to understand because we read so much on this board and others, have much more experience, knowledge, expertise---and success with their advice.


Me, H-34 now 38
W-32 now 35
T-13 now 18 years
M-6 now 9
Daughter 3 years now 7
Bomb 11/27/12 - OM
1 year in house separation
Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017