just saw your comment "can't believe i'm still here" and want to say , yeah, me too.
i guess there are lots of us out here sayign the same thing on a daily basis. i do not know what i'm doing on a daily basis- get strong- get weak - sit on my fence waiting for a strong wind to push me off ei ther way.
oh well-
how do perfectly good men go nuts like this? one of life's bigger questions.
don't know where it will end for me. have met a few women i know who actually went thru this- on their own- applied same m.o. as mwd and have turned sitch around. i don't know if i have hope or why i do it-.
35+ yers together - he says he's beenunhappy for along time( tho never felt compelled to mention it) found out 1/5 yr5s ago he was cheating for who kn ows howlong. inever ever susptected in a million years he would lie- silly me...
feellike a dope for about ten years - feel like a fool (retrospectively )f or about 30 years- i got nothin but to say hang in there and know you're among good company. assuming we're all the people with ourheads on straight dealing with a nutball-