Compliments & Passive Aggressiveness..Work to do!

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I need to have another phone session with laurie to straighten out these questions. But she said to keep doing what I ak doing and see if we cqn bring W closer before we t ry a different approach.

Im not sure what the different approach is becuase she told me to just focus on this one and we will talk about the other when the time is right.

I wouod assume the approach is similar as I have seen on a lot of mens threads. The show their W that they are capable of meeting the needs the W needs. THEN there needs to be a different approach at some point to make the spouse decide I guess.

At this moment in time laurie feels it is too early since it hasnt even been three months yet. If she is showinf a huge interest in the OM then an ultimatum type situation (not the verbal one we dont like, but just putting her a position where she has to decide) will push her to him. I think she is waiting ti see more signs that W is second guessing herself or coming closer before anything is changed so that it doesnt backfire.

Again I really think the magic timeframe seems to be 6 months. Whenever I read someones sitch it seems the wayward is not ready and will not make the 'correct' decision before that time.

Adinva I will STOP snooping now. It really does sometimes think less of my wife. If we reconcile, I dont want memories of what she said to OM or ti anyone else about our M to be stuck in my head. It will be enough to deal with this wreckage without all that baggage!