Note to all LBS - evidently we should stay home and be hermits less we be accused of things we have not done...
Thank you AS, that was exactly what I was thinking about how that went the other day! Yes, the list helps me a lot, I have it written down in a notebook in my purse too.
The phone police have been at it again. I suppose as a LBS we are supposed to sit at home and be hermits, less we be accused of other things. H had D last night. I made plans to go to a movie and drinks with my cousin. On the way to pick D up (late at that, but that's another issue) he text asking about a number I've been texting Friday and Saturday - I tell him exactly who it is - a guy at work that was watching over a weekend project for me - totally legit! He doesn't believe who I was going to movies with, says I haven't talked with my cousin. At any rate - we all remember back at the beginning of the year I as texting with another guy - I apologized and have not talked to this guy since. (I did run into him at a grocery store last week, weird, but we just talked for a minute, he asked if I was still working on marriage, that was it)
So last night we are at a small bar and I get a text from this guy asking if I'm out. I don't reply. And then him and his friends show up. He saw my car in the lot. I can't help what other people do. We talked, he knows I'm still working on marriage, etc. Nothing happened.
This morning I get a text first thing from H saying he hoped I had a nice time hanging out with this guy. Phone police are on it. Now it doesn't matter that I didn't reply. He thinks this was all set up to meet this guy there. I tell him exactly how it was but he doesn't believe me. Says 'I kindly bow out. Start deciding what you wanna do with the house. Staying or selling. Can't be the crazy husband who decides to live separate and act like he needs to control from a distance. It's not me and I apologize. Go do your thing. Have an all nighter with (guy) or whatever else'
What??? It's like he's looking for me to mess up to have good reason. I know, mid reading,but thats what it feels like. And I have done nothing wrong (yes, should have never talked with guy from beginning, but I apologized and haven't talked with him since I did) And I have NEVER done anything our entire marriage to make him not trust me. Although he did say back when we first got married when we didn't have sex much he thought I was getting it elsewhere - not true at all.
I asked him if we could talk sometime today, that we shouldn't have these discussions over text. Told him nothing was planned like that last night, I could see where he would feel that way, but it wasn't the case, and that I am tired of being blamed for things I can't control or didn't do.
Frustrated!!!
So this talk should be interesting. No idea what to say. I'm just going to let him talk. He said he would talk but 'at this time, has no intention of living with me'
I did text him this morning that when I pulled back recently it was to work on myself, get my emotions in check and give him space. Nothing to do with other person.
I have a felling he is going to want me to do all talking though. So where do I start????
