Compliments & Passive Aggressiveness..Work to do!

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Gabbysmom. I thought so too! Initially if I answered it was very brief and a little cold, and that treatment was only while she was there. And actually she really NEVER messaged me from his house in the first maybe two months unless it was about D3.

When Laurie suggested I start to use light touch in our first call, I started doing that. Since then, W messages me from there about me not D3 much more. And she wants to engage me in intellectual chat while OM is playing his online games all night (she told me this. Not mind reading)

So in our second session, I asked Laurie that I wasn't sure if I should be meeting her emotional needs whiles she is with OM. Laurie said to think about the effect on her mentally when she is sitting with OM who is too busy on his video game which she doesn't enjoy and then you are engaging her in what she does.enjoy. W messaged kept initiating messages during presidents state of the union address because OM is not political so I engaged her back. Laurie thought that was a great call on my behalf because again it will make her wonder what exactly she is doing with this guy.

I guess its another example of counter intuitive DB. Rules. We all feel we shouldn't do it but the caloaches have a different opinion.

Laurie said not to initiate but if she initiates then engage. Also match her tone. Friendly meets friendly, indifferent gets indifferent.