I have been married to my highschool sweetheart for 21 years. Two children in college and she walked away 2 months after our daughter left for school. For 10 years I would drink and stay out late twice a week on average. The intimacy in the marriage was not good. She hurt me early on both before and after marriage (1st year) be being unfaithful. I ran from the relationship by not being home, as stated above. We separated in October 2012. She said it was to remove herself from the situation but not contemplating a divorce. I chased her for nearly three months and she then told me she wanted a divorce. One month ago was the last time we met in person and talked and she was cold as ice. I started the Last Resort Technique and she now has shown interest. We had dinner last night and she said that she was depressed, confused by her feelings and didn't know if it was fair to not let me go since she was not sure what she wanted. She did begin with a statement that she wasn't prepared to say that it was over. She wants to move forward and asked if we could meet periodically. I said yes. I told her that we hurt each other and that it affected the intimacy in the marriage but that regardless of the the ambiguity of the marriage I was here and not gong anywhere and that I wanted to be a source of security for her. She said she plan to get some counseling. I am in the process of selling the house and living with family during renovatons. zshe signed a one year lease a few blocks from the house back in October. I am not sure how to act from this point forward and looking for some advice?
