It's so very hard isn't it, Mm? Know that it will get easier. Do you have one person who you can spill your guts to? This person needs to listen but keep everything in confidence. As stated earlier, you really don't want your families to be involved in all this, it only makes things worse. Hang in there brother.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl