((busting))I know this is tough and you are spinning.

I get scared though. I get scared that I will never be worth it again to him.

Is that what you're really afraid of?

I think it's something else and those fears are holding you back.

Are you worth it to you, to your kids?

Because really, our families are forever broken even with good co-parenting (although I doubt that can even be as he is rarely here and already not very involved with their lives). And unless he sees me as worth it, my family will never be put back together. I hate that.

You're projecting, mind-reading, labeling, catastrophizing...

You don't know any of that and often times we get what we create in our minds.

You are fighting where you are. Let go of all that and just live today. Accept where you are today. We get so caught up in being the victim and miss the good stuff along the way. Don't let your H (or your mind)rob you of that. Enjoy your kids and your happy little family being able to do whatever you want, whenever you want.

You may have a good friend who has a happy marriage and all is beautiful in their lives with unicorns that shite rainbows. Tomorrow one of them could be diagnosed with cancer or hit by a bus. None of us know what the future holds, all we have is this minute, this hour, this day.

Let him go, and create busting's world!


Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss