^^^^this! I waited tables all through college. Knowing drink orders & flirting is the name of the game.

I have started telling my H when he says inappropriate thIngs now. That was definately not appropriate.

I was ignoring the FB stuff to, but you have to stop the snooping. I mean, you know she's in an A, why do you keep looking? It's just continuing your obsession with your W's actions, and keeping you focused on her & OM instead of you. DR says NO snooping!!! I was guilty of this myself. But I stopped. You have to!!

M: 9 yrs
T: 13 yrs
H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months
Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs
Dbing 12/12
S 1/13
7/13 H moved back in basement.
8/13 #3 born
10/13 still cheating
10/13 He moves across country, I file for D