ANY MAN who begrudges his children support should NOT see them..."
^^^^ this. I have read every post in every thread Bruce has written. I have not commented because, honestly, you were getting incredibly solid advice from these good people here. People who took significant time to sincerely try to help you. There wasn't much more I could add that wasn't already being said.
But now, with these past posts with your 'bah bah bah' comments about your child and your unrealistic expectations of what it takes (emotionally and financially) to raise a healthy son...much less one with health issues... iI feel an overwhelming desire to come out and publicly side with your wife. I agree wholeheartedly with 25's Cognitive Dissonance theory. If your approach on this forum reflects even a percentage of your behavior with your wife both during and after your marriage...SMH.
Everything she is asking for through her L is absolutely fair. Just because you don't agree, doesn't negate the fairness of their requests. If I were your wife, I would limit your visitation with your son too. I wouldn't trust that you would have his best interests at heart, based on your past behavior. Asking a mother to trust someone else with her son's well-being, when there is no historical reference to prove that person is trustworthy with the child is incredibly unfair. And not like borrowing your car unfair...this is a child. Not a toy to tug of war over. And then, you complain about paying for your son for the rest of his life until adulthood. Um, that's the hand you were dealt. Financial responsibility is yours, Dad. Regardless of whether you see him or not. You are his Dad. Start acting like it, not playing the 'dad-game' to make a point or 'show her'.
This is a marriage support forum and I think every one here has worked to exhaustion to try to support you, help you find the change within yourself that you need to find to be a good father ( which should be one of your only goals right now). Unfortunately, it is proving to be a fruitless effort.
Sorry for the 2x4's, but you don't seem to get it. Pull your head out of your butt, recognize what is truly important here, man up and start really being a dad. That is all.
