Grizz, I hear you about about not wanting to be around W. I've had the same experience, and it's not really what I expected. Here I'd be doing 180's and trying to detach and be my best self around her etc., then I'd find myself actually being happier when she wasn't there. Just a huge sense of relief when she wasn't around. Maybe it's a reflection of the resentment or just that it's tiring to always be "on" around her and doing 180's and whatnot. Ultimately, I think this isn't a bad thing because it makes detaching easier, and it's a reminder that maybe things won't be so bad if/when we split.