I can't sit here and say he never did what I wanted because I know while that is true, I did nothing to point that out to him. I did nothing to explain the importance. And by not doing that, I didn't have a mind towards the M either. It was all about me and my hurt feelings and fear of further rejection.
See, I'm going to call B.S. on this. This isn't a R with another un-invested person or stranger. This is a R with someone that promised to love and cherish you forever. I would feel differently if you actually asked him to sit and watch 18 holes of golf with you, because then you've communicated your interest being that. But you asked about a play.
He has a responsibility to KNOW if he's pleasing you, to learn, to watch, to understand, and if he doesn't, to ask. Think of it when someone has a baby or adopts a dog. Neither of those other beings even have the ability to communicate their needs effectively. The parent seeks it out, they watch and listen. Is the baby crying? That's an obvious one. Is it eating well? Sleeping regularly? Active or lethargic? Skin rashes or dryness, hot to the touch? The dog owner does the same: is the dog eating? Chewing itself? Wagging it's tail or sulking in the corner? Balding in spots? Wheezing?
Everyone knows how to do it before they get M'd. It shouldn't become your responsibility to drag it out of him just because your S gets lazy. Fine, if they prefer to be lazy, then they have to know the likely consequences: D or A. Just like having a job. Get lazy on the job and you're not likely to have the job for long either.
