Compliments & Passive Aggressiveness..Work to do!

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Juicy bit of gossip. Laurie and I had talked during my last coaching call, that it seemed W relationship with OM was beginning to at least not be so awesome like she thought it was at the beginning.

Mother in law, who was a WAW herself 20 years ago, has told me before that the more you engage W, and the more you do stuff with her like go out to a concert or for dinner, the more it will put a strain on the Affair. her AP (who is now her husband) still has insecurities because the relationship did not start the way it should.

Anyway, so when I left for work this morning, my W said she is going to OM's and will be back....drum roll....tomorrow morning! that would be the shortest time since the beginning and the GOAL or event that Laurie told me to watch for. Laurie wanted to see a ONE night trip as a progress indicator because we went from 2 nights (with three full days) twice a week, to 2 nights (with just one full day) a week, to now one night this week, with barely any full day.

Here is the kicker. I'm home now and just picked up our iPad and in the notifications its said OM had sent her a message on FB saying "I don't believe you". Nice! So of course the curiosity was just too much for me.

I opened FB (wife leaves her account logged in on the iPad all the time) and there as no full conversation between them so it must have started on their phones. The only two messages were:

Wife: See. This is what I am F*?K%$G talking about! You have to trust your woman!

OM: I don't believe you.

So it looks like trust is already becoming an issue. How does she think he can trust her if she is willing to leave a 14 year marriage, a three year old daughter, her husband, a house, a brand new car, the chance to be a SAHM forever, and access to money etc.? And she is living with me, she is here at least 5 nights a week, and he is supposed to trust her? He doesn't even trust himself! He hits on married women!

Looks like everything we know about an A and what causes the breakdown is happening. My MIL was right in that they will begin to fight soon if W doesn't leave our house and move in with him. But with not even ONE paying job between the two of them thats not even possible.

Like GH31 told me before, SM stop lol'ing there is nothing funny about the situation you find yourself in. But I just can't help but laugh at this particular situation! LOOOOOL

Why do people insist that their affair is different to all the millions of documented ones? Why do they feel theirs will defy the statistics? Why do people even consider making it their primary relationship? i have a growing respect now for people who confess or get caught in an affair and then end it because their primary relationship is what matters. They see things more clearly than some others.