Don't ever feel bad about posting. This place should always be a safe haven for anyone. Once you are more familiar with the site, you will see that there are people here with all kinds of life challenges and struggles.
Even though at times some posters can get defensive or flat out rude or hostile, I believe that everyone here has the best intentions to both find and provide support. I personally can learn a lot from you and appreciate your insights "from the other side."
Even if someone overreacts to your POVs, don't get discouraged and keep coming back. You are a human being like all of us here, who made some big mistakes, has realized that and wants to make things right and have a happy M. In your situation, you are luckier than most in that you do have a chance with your W. So don't waste it and do everything in your power to turn things around.
Lots of good advice here, but your situation is unique and this site doesn't specialize in healing from infidelity and that is why we are recommending for you to read and become as knowledgable as you can.
Q - are you guys in counseling? If you are or would consider it, I'd recommend that you go with someone who is not only pro-marriage, but who specializes in helping couples heal from infidelity. From everything I have read, it's a lot of hard work - doable, but very hard and it takes a long time.
Stay the course and hang in there!
Me & H: 44 D7, D6, S3 Together: 20y, M: 17y EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10 EA becomes PA: Spring 2011 H filed for D: 09/06/12 D Negotiating began 2/15 OW seemingly gone on 3/15 Still negotiating D
