Mrbond. Yes you ate right I need to just do it. But the reason I think I need to learn how to do it effectively is because I saw a post by AnotherStander and a follow up by 25 (these were on someone else's thread) where they talked about being specific in your compliments.
I need to find those posts and paste them here as the bases of my learning this skill. But from what I room from those posts, simply saying 'you look nice' is a little generic and maybe not effective.
Those one liners I have been doing those all the time. But those posts were talking about being more specific like in this case it might be 'is that a new shirt? It looks great on you. I like it a lot'.
In the thread is was reading they were talking about the difference between just saying you are an awesome mom, and actually pointing out a specific thing like hey I saw how you made that game with D, good job, you are an awesome mother.
That's what made me think there is more to learn as far as complimenting.
As far as gal, no I have not started the cooking class. I have been spending a lot of time.with D3 helping her with some new games and things to hep with her speech. When we went to the speech evaulatiin test they gave us things to try with her and I went out and bought the little.games they told.us about and have started working with her on it.
It is a lot of fun hanging with D3 to teach her. I feel like I am being a good father and being three for her.
Tonight W is at OM. And D3. Is at MIL. I am going to a friends birthday party
Next week I am going to meet some friends for a game of pool on Tuesday night. I wont tell W. Because I want to just get dressed and tell her I am going out. I'm always giving her too much notice like I care too much about her. Need to just do my own thing.
Me, H-34 now 38 W-32 now 35 T-13 now 18 years M-6 now 9 Daughter 3 years now 7 Bomb 11/27/12 - OM 1 year in house separation Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017
