You know what's interesting? This narcissism thing we talk about with our H's. With me? I've realized something... my self-esteem issues were just the other side of the same coin. I was as equally occupied with myself as my H was with himself. A narcissist is busy protecting his ego. Isn't someone with a poor self-esteem doing the same thing? I did nothing to protect the M. Again, I was too busy protecting my ego.