I reread your post and also saw, it's all about her, what she said and did and how you tried to stop her from what she wants to do, or at least delay it so that you can then find a way to stop her.

So I agree with Rick, the second message from him. How do you think behaving like a victim is going to get you a better marriage with your wife? You've put all your eggs in one basket and handed that basket to your wife and you're terrified.

You were here before, and had years in between. Why are you so afraid of divorce? Trying to fix your relationship, out of fear, is not going to work. You have to lose your fear and be OK either way, or it's done.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.