The View from the Blanket II

[bustingout]

Hi BD thank you for coming by.

I know it sounds a lot like mind reading... I am doing a lot of that I agree.

I do know however and this is now a repeated pattern, whenever he leaves and is with OW he doesn't call and is very cold with me. We have gotten to the point that he is calling the kids daily so that is good.

I understand the need to detach. I get so bothered though with his treatment. It's not because I don't understand what is going on and the dynamics at play... It's him being outright rude and dismissive.

And since I can't control his behavior I am thinking to send him this so that I protect myself: what do you think?

" dear h,

The daily phone calls to the kids have been really positive. I'm glad we could agree to it.

I'd like it if you call in the house phone from now on. Also, if you have any questions about the kids or something you can text me. I'd rather not use email.


I too will use text in case something needs to be shared about the kids and will not use email.

I think this may allow for even smoother communication for us all. "

I mean would a message like that put boundaries around me ( i obviously need them since this has been bothering me so much) yet still bring me closer to my goal of saving the M?