Congratulations on the bowling ball. Sometimes you have to look the part a long time before you can back it up. Keep practicing.
My boys are young compared to yours but they drop hints that they know the score here too. The youngest came and got in bed with me last Saturday and Sunday mornings around 5. One day this week he told me he did it because he knew I missed mommy. The oldest had me come get him at her place one night after about 30 mins. He told me he was home sick. He has stayed overnight lots of times and never been home sick. It appears they are both trying to protect me, so I've tried to act stronger in front of them just in case.
The last thing they do is tease their mother about her being on her cell phone. When she excuses herself to make a call or sits with us all but isn't truly there (texting), they call her on it. Last night when she went to the bedroom to make a call they both started telling her good night. This was at 6:30. I had to make them stop because she was getting angry.
Your cousin in law is right; you don't have to tell them a thing. Kids pick up on body language and actions more than we know. The mlcer thinks we turn their kids/family/friends against them, but actions speak louder than words.
M - 42 W- 37 S's - 9,6 M-12 T-14 FIL- diagnosed with fatal disease spring 2011 ILYBNILWY - march '12 FIL - died jan '13 W Moved out week later
