Unfortunately 2TP the post above is exhibiting hope and expectations. The WAS can smell expectations from a mile away and makes it their job to squash them. Your hope brings you up and the resulting disappointment brings you down. This is the rollercoaster you are oh so familiar with.

The only way you should go on that vacation is if you expect nothing, expect it will change nothing, and can be okay with that -- in other words detached. If you were at detachment I don't think you'd be posting about it because it would be inconsequential.

If you're going to go you need to start working on your mainframe now. Otherwise your expectations will not be met, your resulting frustration will become evident and things will spiral down. You know that's how it goes.

Prepare your state of mind early and leave hope and expectations at home, it's the only way it will work.

Accuray

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
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