Thoughts? I don't think you need to create drama. Your boys have enough to deal with, don't you think? My thought is that you should encourage, just as you did, their relationship with their father. That's good for the boys. It's good for your H. It's good for you. I'm not saying you should lie to them. Don't ever do that. They will figure things out much faster than you give them credit. They will always want their parents together. But even more important, they want both their parents to love them. They will remember how you act, what you say, what you do, and how you love them. How you look for what's best for them.
Don't rob them of that. Ever, if you can help it. You won't be sorry for taking that approach, no matter how much it hurts you or how much you sacrifice for them. It counts. It really does and don't ever think otherwise for a second no matter how things get. You are more of a mom than that
As for H's offer to go out. If you feel comfortable going and want to go, then go. If not, then don't. He made his choices, and it's ok for you to make yours. If he wants to spend time with you, that's something he'll try to do. And it won't stop with little attempts. Don't worry about that
No drama is nice, isn't it? I like those kinds of nights. Having one of those now after a long week, and loving it!
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
