FY, I completely understand how you feel. I don't want to be friends with my H. If he had behaved in a different, more honorable way, I would've been willing to stay in touch. But he's done so much that hurt me, that if he were my friend only, I would've cut all contact with him, and that's what he will be after the D.
The meeting went OK. We agreed on some things, but he is still reluctant to pay the support I need. I agreed to lower the amount substantially compared to what the L asked. I only want to cover my expenses. But he still says it's too much, and emailed me an hour ago to say there's no way he can do it. I am meeting with the L next Friday, so I'll bring all my Qs to him.
I spoke with my coach today and she suggested that I refer my H directly to the L. It makes sense, bc he doesn't understand how alimony works. I think he doesn't understand a lot of what goes on in the process.
