I am so sorry. I know exactly what you are saying. I don't think any of my calls with H have been longer than :30 either in who knows how long...
Sometimes when the kids are with him and I call to say goodnite, he answers and passes the phone directly to our D - a 5 year-old girl, instead of saying "Hi, KG. How are you? You want to talk to the girls? Here they are. Have a good night." I used to feel like I was so insignificant to him, that I was not even worth 5-seconds of his time to say that and I would be devastated. How to stop feeling that way?
I don't know... I don't know how you detach from that. All I can say is that I slowly got used to it, then I was less hurt by it every time until one day not too long ago, I realized that the interaction had not changed, but it didn't bother me anymore.
It's not like I did anything differently - in my case, it was just time that helped me detach perhaps and I suspect that you might be in the same boat.
I am sorry, busting! I hope that day when it doesn't affect you comes very, very soon. It's been long enough for you too and I hate to see you hurting.
((((busting)))))
Me & H: 44 D7, D6, S3 Together: 20y, M: 17y EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10 EA becomes PA: Spring 2011 H filed for D: 09/06/12 D Negotiating began 2/15 OW seemingly gone on 3/15 Still negotiating D
