And the Beat Goes On...

[tested metal]

Hi folks!

I have not posted in a while and thought I would give an update/ ask for advice.

Things have been going good post-divorce as EX and I have gotten along for the most part and finances now seem to be settling down. D2 is thriving and has a good relationship with both of us.

Now 2 weeks ago ex texted me saying she misses me and wanted to "come over". I reply I miss her too, but I am dating someone (I am) and I don't want to give the wrong impression.

Now ex tells me that she is moving to a town 70 miles away and expects me to give up out 50/50 custody agreement so she can be happy and get a better job. I told her that she is free to move where she likes but I will not give up my time with our daughter. I have a good relationship with her and I would like to keep that, plus she is finally getting consistency with school and routine. Now ex is claiming that I am a controling bastard, who likes seeing her "below me", which is not the case. I just don't want to give up my hard earned time with D2, just because she decides to move. She refuses to move with D2, which I said is her own choice, but I am sticking to my guns on this.

I explained that my reasons for sticking were because of the recent stability; a major loss of my time from D2; the increased cost for daycare and traveling; there would be major changes in child support (me paying even more, which I can't afford); and it would be me essentially giving up my 50% of physical custody.

The schools here are just as good as where she is going and the community is great here.

She said that she will have to take it to court then and will jack up my child support. (Which is child support is an idle threat because I got nothing to lose as I would lose whether D2 is with her a majority of the time through court or by my own permission).

I told her to do what she needs to do and hung up on her.

So my question is, What does anyone else think? Am I being total selfish with this? I am really looking for honest answers, espicially if I am in the wrong. I want to see Ex thrive, but frankly that is not responsibility, nor do I feel I need to sacrifice my time for it.

Thanks in advance!