Fwiw I think you are not out of bounds talking to your son about taking a family trip. To me you are not fixing only talking openly with your kid about family issues and as you said you will listen to him an not force him to go.
What a great chat with Sil I know how much a conversation like that means. Makes you feel not so crazy. I like the idea of bil talking to s15 about drugs. Is that something you should run by your h first?
You are an inspiration
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