Here we go loopty loo. Here we go loopty li.

[Raine]

Now she constantly harps, "We got married too young", like it's some kind of mantra and explains SO much.

That's part of the script. Verbatim what is say in #1 for "14 Signs That Show if a Midlife Crisis is Destroying your Marriage." If this was the case, I think it would have shown it's ugly head a few years into the marriage, not 23. I do think that the idea of this is a factor with my H. I think he feels like he didn't get the chance to experience and date as much as he would have liked to. He's much more confident and successful now. Which does go along with why he is such a player in MLC. I just think it's only giving him moments of feeling great about himself, and then he's laden with guilt.

I'm in the same boat as you; my H and I were each others first. I'm glad your W hasn't gone PA. I don't know how far things have gone physically with any of the OW. I just know it has been physical and he is desperate to make me believe that things are more of a friendship with OW#1. I don't want to ever be with him if he has some incessant need to be friends with other women. That's a definite boundary for me. I'm finding it hard to balance the idea of being friendly and comfortable with him with him breaking that boundary. I haven't said anything to him about it.

H told me a few months ago that one day we would have a serious conversation about all this and I would never forgive him. He's not ready to talk about that. That tells me he's not willing to give up anything just yet. He and I had convos before in the past where he said that he would be able to forgive me for an affair, knowing that I wouldn't be able to do the same. What I know now is you never know how you're going to react until it happens to you. I'm sure he thought he would never walk out on us either.