My H does not and has not EVER worn a wedding ring, so he didnt have to make a decision about that.
PoN, I have gone as dark as I could for a long while--just talk about the kids and finances, as needed. BUT that has gotten me nowhere. Plus, I see him almost every day, although briefly.
I HAVE been working on myself. I am definitely in a better place than I was a month ago. The recent R conversation w H set me back though.
It makes me realize how done he believes he is. I know that is mind reading, but ALL his actions lead me to believe this.
I DO have a good support system -- a very good one. I just don't feel like talking about the same stuff over and over and I'm sure my family & friends don't want to hear it over and over.
I had an IC session yesterday. I confessed to her I know I need to be GALing but I just can't seem to get going too quickly. Absolutely ALL my friends are married w families, so there w/e's tend to be wrapped up in the family activities that we always were/are.
Philadelphia is too far for me to go to EE. I need to look for something more locally. A friend of mine did get tickets today for Jillian Michaels who is coming to our area in May! (She inspires me!):)
You are right, PoN, I do need to GAL. BUT, you are wrong that I haven't been doing anything suggested to me. More of the same isn't getting me anywhere (darkish). He perceives me as being cold, which wasn't my intent. I was trying to be dim. He is the same to me.
M- 18 T-21 S-14,11 & 10 BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA) H moved out 11-3-2012 10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life. 11-25-13 Jointly filed.