What I'm learning from H stages, myself!

[albamarie]

once he said "you can get used to anything" - this is him being very narcissistic, it's all about him! If he's still there with his thinking, that's not a good sign for any future. Mine said that too, now he says just live my life, nothing has changed except he's gone, big deal. - not him at all - no it's his way now!

can they really really be soooo deluded at this time that they believe they do get to have it all scott free THEY DON'T CARE!

i am not "getting used" to anyt5ing that's right, we never will, and we will walk, because they don't care!

i wake up and feel like life with you is way worse than without. I am totally there, life needs to move on and put this whole thing in the rear view mirror! There are not enough words to describe or express how nauseatingly sick this is.

i don't know if they're too stupid to see it- too self-absorbed ?? that they can only see the good intentions in themselves and totally block out the pain they cause They don't want to see the pain it causes, they block it and and so it doesn't exist. We are not the priority, they are at any cost.

no matter how i twist it or turn it- something is still tieing us- you too - at this point I don't feel any emotional tie, do not miss the L, nor him, financial will be my last hold, but I will let that go as well, I am that done, angry, and sick by all this cancer!

being alone alot in nj is stinking awful andlonely. it's better- i find activities and friends to see- IT'S STILL ALONE - AND ALONE is a big big adjustment. [b][/b] It is the hardest thing for us kinda girls, but you will reach a point when you are sick of him so much, that a lone, may not feel as lonely as you think, it may start to just feel free. I am getting past lonely, I am reaching the point of free and optimistic for a future!

Your post are fine...you can't put a limit on your feelings! Today I am out of wisdom so I pasted your thoughts with my snippets.