Thank you all for the compliments, input, and ongoing support.

Fortunately I had read Starsky's advice for most prior to beginning to piece. So I have that head start. I'm doing somewhat of a slight modification as my W is one who hates to be controlled. For example, the night of my original post here, W's phone rings. She doesn't answer it and discloses that it was OM and he had been texting her with a "poor me" game as he claimed to be drunk at a bar in the afternoon b/c he is so upset that W continues to choose me.
I was / am both impressed that she was honest and at the same time angry. W begged me not to "shut her out". So we talked about what NC means, including blocking OM / changing #s if need be, etc. She agreed, but did state she wants to do it herself for herself and it also will be a non control by me. Win win. Just need to verify here and there.

Based on Ws weird med condition (improved) she has had all sorts of tests ran on her. Is this verify scenario or should I go for a brand new std panel? Thoughts?

I like the idea of Retro. One is coming to my area in April.

Other highlights in the past few days... More physical affection (snuggling, kissing, etc.). She changed our R status to M on FB, she accepted my SIL as a friend. Best thing is she started with ILY. smile. Oh and we went to a yoga class together the other night. Can't wait for more of that.