I just got the 5 Languages Of Love and The Happiness Trap. Starting with the happiness trap today, looks like a good book. After the first chapter I fear that the only way I will get through this is to accept the fact that I may loss my marriage to my wife, yet I can be ok. The problem is I am still at I refuse to accept that I can loose my marriage and wife, it would be easier to cut off my left arm above the elbow with a rusty hack saw. So I guess I have some serious work to do. Act as if... Wow I applaud all of you who can do this, I just can't yet and idk how to get there. I am seriously obsessed with my wife and cant budge from it emotionally. I get it intellectually, but emotionally I am a mess. I dont know who to be OK with out her, I base everything on her being by my side and have for over 20 years. What a mess I am in.
I thought the same thing about being by my wife all the time for the rest of my life. I know it hurts more than you can describe. I lived it. Here is my advice. Suck it up and act as if. The biggest mistakes I made while DBing was when I let my emotions get in the way and acted needy. You may think that you will not be OK without her but you need to show her that that you will be OK with out her. You are getting great advice from people on this forum. If she it talking about moving back in there is hope. Do not drive her away. Read the Divorce remedy and the LRT!! Again - suck it up!
