The test wouldn't work for us. We would both say "over" and clearly we're not compatible. LOL! Of course, we would both "agree" that it goes over, but then he would do it willy-nilly, or more likely, never actually do it and just expect me to load it all the time.
I've heard that about first M's before. I wish my first was when I was 22 and stupid and didn't have any kids before I D'd. Then maybe this one would have been much different. I just hate to do that to S12. Your H's first does sound a lot like mine. Your current one sounds like a dream. I can only fantasize about that kind of partnership. *sigh* I'm so glad the too of you are working things out!
LIS, thanks for the details on ADD vs. depression. I knew Wellbutrin wasn't ADD, because *I* took it some time back for depression.
The crazy feeling results from having talked with H. You'd think we were talking two completely different languages. He likes to insert "others" into his justifications, to make me feel like I'm a freak. I've learned to filter that out and tell him that I'm not interested in anyone else's position, that the only two people that matter in our R are the two of us, but it still stings. I'm sure that the things that you referred to as his "gaslighting" contribute immensely. I was feeling I must be crazy for thinking this ADD testing shouldn't take this long. H sure seems content with the speed at which it's progressing. I think the biggest thing pointing to my craziness is the amount of thought I put toward this. I wish I could just turn it off and not give a rip and let him carry the burden. Or not. I wish I could just wash my hands of it and say "it is what it is" and just get on with my life. And again, if not for S12, I think I could.
And, if H would just shut up. I'm so tired of his sales pitch. He knows what buttons to push. The whole "boundaries" thing is a new enough concept for me that he easily rattles my resolve and makes me feel crazy. I'm holding strong, but it's painful.
