CV,your H and you remind me of what my H used to say his marriage was like with his first wife.
My H is very well organized and quite the perfectionist. I love it. He organizes our pantry, cleans out and organizes our refrigerator (lines up everything, puts it all in logical places), and is fairly meticulous about our lawn and his workshop. I'm neat and clean inside our home and well organized with the grocery shopping, laundry, etc. I pay all the bills. He never has to think about them or our banking. We just function well as a team.
His first wife was a disaster; nice and sweet but a mess. She bounced checks, forgot to pick up the dry cleaning all the time so he would run out of clothes for work, etc.
She was a STAHM with three small kids (7, 9, & 11) when they divorced. She couldn't get things done, not the housework, the laundry, shopping. He would have to do it in the evenings after he got home from work. She usually "didn't feel good" and would have to lie down after dinner (leaving him to clean the kitchen).
He just couldn't take it anymore. It was his first marriage, as yours is. Sometimes, the first marriage shows you what you can't live with and won't put up with in the next.
We've joked before about how to tell if you're compatible with someone: ask them which way the toilet paper roll should go, over or under...
M:63 H:53 S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23 M:15 T:16
Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways." H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12 12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing
