Here we go loopty loo. Here we go loopty li.

[JBolt]

Comparisons between self and OP only add to more confusion, especially with MLC. It became clear to me that it was about the first willing person, and that person is going to have a lot of insecurities and low self respect, along with other issues to allow him/her be used that way.

I appreciate the heads up on that article, I'll check it out tonight. I'm almost positive there is no OM and the OEA was killed by OMW about 2 months ago, but what the h*ll do I know. Zombie W mentioned wanting to find her true love on BD, so it may be coming. W and I were each others first and got married at 19 and 18 years old (no, we didn't have to, we were M for over 7 years before first D). Now she constantly harps, "We got married too young", like it's some kind of mantra and explains SO much. As if this was some kind of revelation and not something in the last 23 years we've discussed, marveled at, and agreed how we beat the odds. These convos used to end in "I wouldn't change a thing, just lucky found each other so young."

Because of this history, and no offense to all that seemingly and impressively continue to stand after multiple PA's, I will divorce W the day I find out about a physical A. If she "woke up" the next day, I don't think I could ever trust or forgive her. I know that sounds bad, but it would be the ultimate betrayal of everything we stood for. My IC seems to imply I should expect it and I should cross that bridge when I come to it. Sometimes I just wish she would get it over with. I'm obviously not having a good day in Limbo Land.

Unhappy marriages don't cause infidelity. Being unfaithful causes infidelity."

. You said it Michelle.