Okay eyes...I confronted H after he lied ( or dodged the truth) and he had to fess up! He was not happy, I was not happy, but then again, hadn't really been DBing at that point.
But I was really low after the confirmation even though I had really suspected and pretty much knew...the confirmation hit me hard anyway.
So be prepared for that. The upside was that I came out a lot stronger and more sure that I could stay this course. It also confirmed that infidelity, so to speak, was not a deal breaker for me, but I had, as I said, some really dark times.
This is where you GAL and PMA and friends will save your azz