I have spoken with a attorney, although I do not have one on retainer. Too expensive. I will see her again when I am served to make sure the agreement is fair to me. The info is strictly logistical, and I have provided her with the it.
So I guess what you are saying is that these feelings are part of the process and I need to deal with them.
Me 37/W 32 S 5 D 4 ILYBNILWY 5/12 Sep 8/12 Starting to find myself 11/12 on
OM is confirmed!!! Went to pick the kids up and her tablet was left on and I saw some graphic messages between them. This [censored], feels like bomb drop all over. In a way I am kind of glad as I would have to go through it sooner or later.
What a mess, it doesn't change what I want, although I am wondering if my approach towards w should change?
First time I have felt anxiety in a very long time.
Me 37/W 32 S 5 D 4 ILYBNILWY 5/12 Sep 8/12 Starting to find myself 11/12 on
Do I tell her I know, maybe it would take some of the excitment out of it? Show her that I am fine no matter what she does? Just when things were going well for me.
Me 37/W 32 S 5 D 4 ILYBNILWY 5/12 Sep 8/12 Starting to find myself 11/12 on
Okay eyes...I confronted H after he lied ( or dodged the truth) and he had to fess up! He was not happy, I was not happy, but then again, hadn't really been DBing at that point.
But I was really low after the confirmation even though I had really suspected and pretty much knew...the confirmation hit me hard anyway.
So be prepared for that. The upside was that I came out a lot stronger and more sure that I could stay this course. It also confirmed that infidelity, so to speak, was not a deal breaker for me, but I had, as I said, some really dark times.
This is where you GAL and PMA and friends will save your azz
Do I tell her I know, maybe it would take some of the excitment out of it? Show her that I am fine no matter what she does? Just when things were going well for me.
I'm on mod mode so I don't know if this will post.
Will telling her or confronting her bring you closer to your goal or just prove that you know. I just encountered this with my H and I chose to let it go, stay on course, besides...he'll likely deny it.
Me 33 / H 30 T 10 / M 9 S 3 / D Infant Bomb 11.22.12 / Moved 11.29.12
It does seem like this is something that needs to be in the open between us. It is not something that can be swept under ther rug wether we r or not. At some point if we are to have a good co-parenting r, there needs to be honesty.
Me 37/W 32 S 5 D 4 ILYBNILWY 5/12 Sep 8/12 Starting to find myself 11/12 on
Yep, agreed. Thankfully, H's GF is also a mother and has agreed not to meet my kids yet...and to take things slow. So really, in the grand scheme of OW's I got kind of lucky....
Good luck with that convo. Any thought s on how you are going to address it?
Something like, Your tablet was on and the chat app was open. I saw something that I guess deep down I already knew. It doesn't change what I want, although I would appreciate not being lied to anymore. I am the most forgiving man you will ever know and if that isn't enough for you I wish you nothing but the best. I do hope you find your happiness.
Me 37/W 32 S 5 D 4 ILYBNILWY 5/12 Sep 8/12 Starting to find myself 11/12 on
Yes, but she had said that it wasn't sexual. From what I read in her chat, it is positively a PA. Deep down I assumed it was, and now I have my confirmation. Would love to hear your thoughts on wether or not I should confront her?
Me 37/W 32 S 5 D 4 ILYBNILWY 5/12 Sep 8/12 Starting to find myself 11/12 on
